Once we decide we can let go of something (and at times that decision is made for us) – we are left with space. The question becomes what do we do with the new found space? Do we fill it with something that can uplift us to a healthier way of living or do we fill it with some other negative habit?
Just because you feel relief when you let go of something, there is no guarantee that that space will fill with something wonderful, unless you decide to be discriminatory about what you allow in.
Think about the last analogy: if you clean out your closet, just to rack your credit card up with clothes you will seldom wear, you are once again filling your closet with things that have little use. Or if you dump your doughnut habit just to replace it with cookies, you are not any step closer to living and feeling healthier.
So when you let go of something and that space has been created, it is a good idea to take a moment in that empty space. Allow yourself to be in that emptiness and to sit with it. You may find out that with less clothes in your closet your closet is less cluttered and you can easily find what you need. Or with that space you may find that there is actually one item you would really like to purchase and it is something that you will actually make good use of – this would be a positive way of using that space you created. Or sitting in the space of letting go of the unhealthy and unnecessary treat, you may realise that you are not even hungry and all you needed was water, or it may become clear that packing fruit and nuts with you are a great snack that give you more energy and sustain you longer and keep your mood stable, as opposed to the old sugar treat that gave you a huge high followed by just as large a low.
The take home message is: Once you have created space, take a moment to sit in it. Allow the space to be OK. Sit in the emptiness and breathe through any discomfort. Because often we are so used to filling space that we get uncomfortable and our first habit is to fill it. So take a time out, pause in the space, and then decide if that space even needs to be filled with anything else.